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A lots of leaders( including many of those who operate in a top-down fashion) claim that they want to consult or involve others in choices that must be make..
what they really want is confirmation for that they have already decided or a veneer of democratic decision making.
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I see three behaviors, or moves, that define facilitative leadership.
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And third, she commits to decision making by consensus. That is, a facilitative leader won’t impose a decision or settle for a majority vote; rather, she will keep working until the group comes as close as possible to unity about how to proceed.
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I see three behaviors, or moves, that define facilitative leadership.
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Second, she finds ways to enhance the capacity of the individuals and groups involved so they have both the information and the confidence they need make informed decisions or recommendations.
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I see three behaviors, or moves, that define facilitative leadership.
First, a facilitative leader consults with the people she is leading in order to define the process by which the group will do its work or make decisions.
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Name it as a lie.Frame it by postulating the liar’s motive and offering evidence to the contrary that any neutral observer would accept. And claim responsibility for your countercharge.
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It is important to say why thinks the statement is a lie and to suggest what the motive of the liar might be. I call this “framing.” Motive is important. If I can’t think of any reason the person might have for misrepresenting the truth, then might chalk their statement up to ignorance or reckless disregard for the truth.
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Finally, it is important to own any claim that a statement is a lie. This means that I need to be comfortable making that claim. If I’m going to call someone a liar, I ought to do it in very public way—to their face, if possible.
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Facilitative leaders foster the kind of empowerment that makes winning at win-win negotiation a reality. That is, your organization’s leadership has to trust you to determine what it will take to get into the trading zone and win at win-win negotiation,
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If I think someone is lying- that is, deliberating making a statement they know to be false, I’ll say out loud, “That’s a lie.” Yes, I’m giving visibility to the statement, but from my hand-point, I’d rather the statement to be labeled as a lie than allowed to stand unchallenged.
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Organizations that have eliminated layers of middle management need lower-level staff to take more responsibility. In this context, companies and groups put a premium on finding managers who can motivate or catalyze networks of employee, volunteers, supporters, investors, and others to define what needs to be done, take the necessary initiative, and encourage cooperation.
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