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A facilitative leader knows that it is not a sign of weakness to ask for such help–especially when the leader wants to have a say on particular issues being discussed and thus isn’t in a position to be entirely disinterested when engaging others in collaborative decision making.
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A commitment to consensus building often means involving a professional neutral to provide facilitation or mediation services.
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A lots of leaders( including many of those who operate in a top-down fashion) claim that they want to consult or involve others in choices that must be make..
what they really want is confirmation for that they have already decided or a veneer of democratic decision making.
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I see three behaviors, or moves, that define facilitative leadership.
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And third, she commits to decision making by consensus. That is, a facilitative leader won’t impose a decision or settle for a majority vote; rather, she will keep working until the group comes as close as possible to unity about how to proceed.
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I see three behaviors, or moves, that define facilitative leadership.
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Second, she finds ways to enhance the capacity of the individuals and groups involved so they have both the information and the confidence they need make informed decisions or recommendations.
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I see three behaviors, or moves, that define facilitative leadership.
First, a facilitative leader consults with the people she is leading in order to define the process by which the group will do its work or make decisions.
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Name it as a lie.Frame it by postulating the liar’s motive and offering evidence to the contrary that any neutral observer would accept. And claim responsibility for your countercharge.
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It is important to say why thinks the statement is a lie and to suggest what the motive of the liar might be. I call this “framing.” Motive is important. If I can’t think of any reason the person might have for misrepresenting the truth, then might chalk their statement up to ignorance or reckless disregard for the truth.
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Finally, it is important to own any claim that a statement is a lie. This means that I need to be comfortable making that claim. If I’m going to call someone a liar, I ought to do it in very public way—to their face, if possible.
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Facilitative leaders foster the kind of empowerment that makes winning at win-win negotiation a reality. That is, your organization’s leadership has to trust you to determine what it will take to get into the trading zone and win at win-win negotiation,
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